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Housework and child care is real work and deserves real money, so I’m 100% behind any initiatives that fairly pay women for their time and labor. But after decades of feminist advocacy for fair wages and material acknowledgment of domestic work, what we’ve gotten is the “wife bonus”.Housework and child care is real work and deserves real money, so I’m 100% behind any initiatives that fairly pay women for their time and labor. But after decades of feminist advocacy for fair wages and material acknowledgment of domestic work, what we’ve gotten is the “wife bonus”.
According to Wednesday Martin, the author of the forthcoming Primates of Park Avenue, a “wife bonus” is a standby on Manhattan’s Upper East Side, where rich husbands reward their stay-at-home wives with a hefty end-of-the-year check to thank them for all their hard work.According to Wednesday Martin, the author of the forthcoming Primates of Park Avenue, a “wife bonus” is a standby on Manhattan’s Upper East Side, where rich husbands reward their stay-at-home wives with a hefty end-of-the-year check to thank them for all their hard work.
One such woman, Polly Phillips, wrote in a much-reviled piece in the New York Post about the designer bags and shoes she buys after her bonus, which she calls “the nod from a happy boss for a job well done.” (If the trade-off for designer pumps is calling your husband your “boss” I’ll be forever happy in flip-flops, thanks.)One such woman, Polly Phillips, wrote in a much-reviled piece in the New York Post about the designer bags and shoes she buys after her bonus, which she calls “the nod from a happy boss for a job well done.” (If the trade-off for designer pumps is calling your husband your “boss” I’ll be forever happy in flip-flops, thanks.)
I’m exceptionally lucky to have a husband who values how important a job it is to stay home and take care of a child, as well as understanding how difficult it is to leave friends, family and career prospects behind to further his career. He was actually pleased to have a tangible way to recognize the contribution that I also make to the success of our lives.I’m exceptionally lucky to have a husband who values how important a job it is to stay home and take care of a child, as well as understanding how difficult it is to leave friends, family and career prospects behind to further his career. He was actually pleased to have a tangible way to recognize the contribution that I also make to the success of our lives.
Women absolutely should be recognized for their contributions at home. And while wife bonuses are apparently limited to ultra-rich despite the fact that most women who stay at home are lower-income, studies show that male executives’ stay-at-home wives do make it possible for their husbands to put in the long hours often required to succeed in high-powered careers.Women absolutely should be recognized for their contributions at home. And while wife bonuses are apparently limited to ultra-rich despite the fact that most women who stay at home are lower-income, studies show that male executives’ stay-at-home wives do make it possible for their husbands to put in the long hours often required to succeed in high-powered careers.
And the prospect of paying women wages for domestic labor is hardly a new idea: feminist activist Selma James started the Wages for Housework campaign in the 1970s. Her work remains resonant today: the hashtag #GiveYourMoneytoWomen, started by activist Lauren Chief Elk, was trending just this past weekend .And the prospect of paying women wages for domestic labor is hardly a new idea: feminist activist Selma James started the Wages for Housework campaign in the 1970s. Her work remains resonant today: the hashtag #GiveYourMoneytoWomen, started by activist Lauren Chief Elk, was trending just this past weekend .
But why a bonus and not a salary? As Washington Post writer Alyssa Rosenberg pointed out, “It’s not getting paid for work that’s necessarily condescending or sexist ... it’s doling that money out like a year-end treat, rather than delivering it regularly like the wage that it is,” she writes.But why a bonus and not a salary? As Washington Post writer Alyssa Rosenberg pointed out, “It’s not getting paid for work that’s necessarily condescending or sexist ... it’s doling that money out like a year-end treat, rather than delivering it regularly like the wage that it is,” she writes.
And why is it that a woman’s husband is her “boss” instead of her partner? And how is a “wife bonus” different from an allowance in any way beyond the name?And why is it that a woman’s husband is her “boss” instead of her partner? And how is a “wife bonus” different from an allowance in any way beyond the name?
If men’s preferred careers require that someone else take care of their children and do their laundry – and support their work outside the home in all sort other, non-tangible ways – it seems only fair that the money they make belongs equally to their marriage partners as well as to them. Women aren’t children who deserve allowances, but adults who should have equal access to the family finances without reservation or guilt. And considering the serious risk women take on when they tie their financial futures to husbands that may leave them (or that they may one day want to leave), it’s more than appropriate to ensure some level of security.If men’s preferred careers require that someone else take care of their children and do their laundry – and support their work outside the home in all sort other, non-tangible ways – it seems only fair that the money they make belongs equally to their marriage partners as well as to them. Women aren’t children who deserve allowances, but adults who should have equal access to the family finances without reservation or guilt. And considering the serious risk women take on when they tie their financial futures to husbands that may leave them (or that they may one day want to leave), it’s more than appropriate to ensure some level of security.
A “wife bonus” may be objectionable – husbands aren’t bosses and wives aren’t their employees – but paying women for the difficult and important work they do isn’t. It’s just unfortunate and unsurprising that the first women finally remunerated for the labor they do in their own homes are the women who, financially, need it the least.A “wife bonus” may be objectionable – husbands aren’t bosses and wives aren’t their employees – but paying women for the difficult and important work they do isn’t. It’s just unfortunate and unsurprising that the first women finally remunerated for the labor they do in their own homes are the women who, financially, need it the least.
• This article was amended on 2 June 2015 to correct the grammar in the sub-heading.