What I'm really thinking: the backing singer

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Don't pity me. You assume I have a failed solo career; that I'm singing through gritted teeth to earn a crust. But the reverse is true – I take great pleasure in being the unsung heroine. I'm not yearning to be as talented as the lead singers, because I'm usually better than them. I have incredible range and versatility, and can switch between rock, jazz and funk with ease. The leads make up for it with charisma and I admire them for it.

One singer I work with has a great voice but it's not perfect, especially when we're near the end of a tour. I can tell when those high notes are going to be a struggle for her and provide a safety net. It's satisfying to be a valuable part of a creative team. It's the interaction between the voices that produces a beautiful sound, and when we do, it's magic.

The key to being a good backing singer is your ear. Hearing the harmonies for a melody and being able to sing them without being distracted takes real skill. The other important quality is selflessness. Even with the other backing singers there has to be a real understanding and synergy, otherwise you produce a wall of noise.

Far from looking daggers at them, I feel a real affection for the lead singers, and I know they appreciate my support. And when they're divas I understand – it's very hard being permanently centre stage. I'm happiest at the back. They say backing singers are 20ft from stardom, but I disagree. It's pretty good where I am.

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