I've had a termination but now my boyfriend won't talk to me about it

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I am in my early 20s and moved in with my boyfriend just over a month ago. I then found I was pregnant and had a termination. We haven't been together long, and neither of us felt it was the right time to have a baby. I've told a couple of close friends and relatives, who have been supportive. I did discuss it with my partner, but he said, ultimately, the choice was mine. Since it's been done, I've struggled with hormones and feel there is a gulf between us. I've felt the need to talk to him about it, but he clams up. He accuses me of shutting off, but if I try to talk, it's never the right time. I feel utterly miserable. He suggested antidepressants, but I don't know if I want pills, which will just smother the issue. What should I do?

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