By Tom Geoghegan BBC News Magazine Within 24 hours the England rugby union team and Lewis Hamilton had been pipped to glory. Coming second is so bittersweet, but is it losing or nearly winning?
By Tom Geoghegan BBC News Magazine Within 24 hours the England rugby union team and Lewis Hamilton had been pipped to glory. Coming second is so bittersweet, but is it losing or nearly winning?
In Paris and in Sao Paulo, it was the same story.
In Paris and in Sao Paulo, it was the same story.
A nation's hopes of glory foundered upon the smallest of margins. A few millimetres of chalk in the corner of the Stade de France, touched by Mark Cueto's left boot, and a momentary glitch in a gear box 9,400km away at Interlagos.
A nation's hopes of glory foundered upon the smallest of margins. A few millimetres of chalk in the corner of the Stade de France, touched by Mark Cueto's left boot, and a momentary glitch in a gear box 9,400km away at Interlagos.
The drama of each battle was played out to millions of viewers but all that the record books will remember are the names of Kimi Raikkonen and South Africa. The winners.
The drama of each battle was played out to millions of viewers but all that the record books will remember are the names of Kimi Raikkonen and South Africa. The winners.
Second is first loser. You always want to win and you train to win John RegisFormer sprinter The English, not for the first time, are second. The rugby union team and Hamilton join Arsenal and Liverpool among the ranks of nearly men after those clubs lost the last two Champions League finals, although Scousers will be quick to point out they won it three years ago.
Second is first loser. You always want to win and you train to win John RegisFormer sprinter The English, not for the first time, are second. The rugby union team and Hamilton join Arsenal and Liverpool among the ranks of nearly men after those clubs lost the last two Champions League finals, although Scousers will be quick to point out they won it three years ago.
Some fans would celebrate their team coming second, saying it marks a fantastic effort in high-profile and competitive sports to get so far and outrank some worthy opponents.
Some fans would celebrate their team coming second, saying it marks a fantastic effort in high-profile and competitive sports to get so far and outrank some worthy opponents.
But for professional players and athletes - and some seasoned supporters - taking pleasure in coming second is never acceptable.
But for professional players and athletes - and some seasoned supporters - taking pleasure in coming second is never acceptable.
Former England rugby union hooker Brian Moore threw away his runner-up medal after defeat to Australia in the World Cup final in 1991. For him, it was nothing to cherish.
Former England rugby union hooker Brian Moore threw away his runner-up medal after defeat to Australia in the World Cup final in 1991. For him, it was nothing to cherish.
"If you are first you are first. If you are second you are nothing," said Bill Shankly when Liverpool manager.
"If you are first you are first. If you are second you are nothing," said Bill Shankly when Liverpool manager.
Regis (left) was beaten by FredericksJohn Regis lost by a metre to Frankie Fredericks in the 200m final at the World Championships in 1993 and 14 years on he says he is still haunted about how he could have better executed the race. Setting a British record, beating track icon Carl Lewis and getting a silver medal was no consolation.
Regis (left) was beaten by FredericksJohn Regis lost by a metre to Frankie Fredericks in the 200m final at the World Championships in 1993 and 14 years on he says he is still haunted about how he could have better executed the race. Setting a British record, beating track icon Carl Lewis and getting a silver medal was no consolation.
"Second is first loser. You always want to win and you train to win. No-one trains to come second so it's a really difficult position to be in.
"Second is first loser. You always want to win and you train to win. No-one trains to come second so it's a really difficult position to be in.
"You're on the rostrum so it's not the end of the world but you're one position away from greatness. It's a good performance but you train for a great performance."
"You're on the rostrum so it's not the end of the world but you're one position away from greatness. It's a good performance but you train for a great performance."
Jimmy White played glorious snooker and won 22 titles but instead will be remembered for six times coming second in the World Championship.
Jimmy White played glorious snooker and won 22 titles but instead will be remembered for six times coming second in the World Championship.
That hasn't diminished his popularity. Quite the reverse, it has probably enhanced it, for glorious failure is something the British are happy to embrace.
That hasn't diminished his popularity. Quite the reverse, it has probably enhanced it, for glorious failure is something the British are happy to embrace.
Bulldog spirit
Bulldog spirit
Regis believes there is a gap between this mentality and the mindset of the majority of athletes, who just want to win.
Regis believes there is a gap between this mentality and the mindset of the majority of athletes, who just want to win.
"The public appreciate what they perceive as great performances. Joe Public doesn't train as hard as you do and when they see on television someone on the rostrum, they're happy for us and we're not ungrateful for that.
"The public appreciate what they perceive as great performances. Joe Public doesn't train as hard as you do and when they see on television someone on the rostrum, they're happy for us and we're not ungrateful for that.
"But what in their eyes may be a great performance you know to be only a reasonable one."
"But what in their eyes may be a great performance you know to be only a reasonable one."
Being runner-up is a greater achievement than being knocked out in the first round but it is also more painful because victory is within reach, he says. This makes the chasm between first and second far wider than between any other places.
Being runner-up is a greater achievement than being knocked out in the first round but it is also more painful because victory is within reach, he says. This makes the chasm between first and second far wider than between any other places.
The ones that wallow in a lack of winning are ones that never achieve success Psychologist Cary Cooper The manner of defeat can magnify the pain, such as Milan throwing away a 3-0 lead against Liverpool in the Champions League final in 2005 and Newcastle famously losing a 15-point lead in the Premiership a decade earlier, after a televised outburst by manager Kevin Keegan.
The ones that wallow in a lack of winning are ones that never achieve success Psychologist Cary Cooper The manner of defeat can magnify the pain, such as Milan throwing away a 3-0 lead against Liverpool in the Champions League final in 2005 and Newcastle famously losing a 12-point lead in the Premiership a decade earlier, after a televised outburst by manager Kevin Keegan.
Cary Cooper, professor of organisational psychology at Lancaster University, says the reason why the nation has responded so warmly to the rugby team's defeat is because expectations were low.
Cary Cooper, professor of organisational psychology at Lancaster University, says the reason why the nation has responded so warmly to the rugby team's defeat is because expectations were low.
"The mood is 'didn't we do well', rather than 'we blew it again'. It's not despondency it's 'we can build on this'.
"The mood is 'didn't we do well', rather than 'we blew it again'. It's not despondency it's 'we can build on this'.
"Reaching down into the depths for a team that wasn't rated in the top two or top four, pulling it out and showing the bulldog spirit will give everyone heart."
"Reaching down into the depths for a team that wasn't rated in the top two or top four, pulling it out and showing the bulldog spirit will give everyone heart."
Is Vickery reflecting on bitter defeat or an honourable second place? In many sports like football the expectation is to win at all costs, he says, possibly because of the country's imperial past, and this puts a burden on a players. But in countries successful at sport, like Australia, the hype can galvanise players to succeed.
Is Vickery reflecting on bitter defeat or an honourable second place? In many sports like football the expectation is to win at all costs, he says, possibly because of the country's imperial past, and this puts a burden on a players. But in countries successful at sport, like Australia, the hype can galvanise players to succeed.
Coming second is always better than third or fourth, he says, and can provide a good platform for later triumphs..
Coming second is always better than third or fourth, he says, and can provide a good platform for later triumphs..
"Most people who are a success in life have setbacks and have the resilience to come back. The ones that wallow in a lack of winning are ones that never achieve success."
"Most people who are a success in life have setbacks and have the resilience to come back. The ones that wallow in a lack of winning are ones that never achieve success."
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John Regis' attitude is healthy for him as an individual athlete but a terrible one to carry over into general everyday life. The attitude that England, or anyone else, should always expect to win only leads to bitter disappointment. Much better to know that you gave your best. Then win or lose you could have done no more.Bill Scott, Edinburgh
No one will know better than the sportsmen involved that second place is meaningless. To compete is to win, anything else means that you lost. That is not to say that it is a personal or team disgrace to finish second, it just means that you lost, the best of the losers. No one wants it, not the sportsmen nor the fans. I took part in competitive sport for a long time, largely winning. For me second place was no better than 3rd, 4th or 105th. Win or lose, there is no grey area!Sean, Ipswich
"Play up, play up and play the game" As long as the game is fair, losing is no disgrace if you have sincerely tried. The obsession with winning (mainly driven by the yobbish football culture and several non-UK million/billionaires) is definitely affecting the natural attitudes of this country. Shame!Arthur Wellesley, London, UK
It is so sad that we cannot celebrate our achievements. It's not first but we are before all the others bar one. That is a success in the world. It saddens me to see silly quibbles over lines and engines. We should be proud and pleased, ready to take it one step further next time, not pathetic sore losers. It makes me embarrassed to be English sometimes with the current mentality.Emily, Bristol
Interesting that the article quotes Australia as a country "successful at sport". Aside from cricket and swimming, Australia isn't really in the running for any global sport these days, certainly not rugby union, football or motor racing. It seems the cultural-sporting cringe is alive and well in the other direction these days!The Landlord, London
I spoke to the runner Roger Black a few years ago, and he told me he considered his silver medal at the Barcelona Olympics (behind Michael Johnson) to be his greatest achievement, above for example his relay gold in Tokyo in 1991. So, it depends on the athlete and the circumstances. I think England's performance was a brilliant one.James, Cambridge
As Vince Lombardi, the great American football coach, once put it: "Winning isn't everything, but wanting to win is."Ben, London, UK
Lawyers, true to form, have a pet term to cover for coming second: "proxime accessit". As in "England Rugby: proxime accessit World Cup 2007" or "Lewis Hamilton: proxime accessit, F1 Champion 2007". Sounds impressive, no?G Hudson, Oxford UK
