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Winning through skill, hard work, courage and determination ought to make you feel pretty good about yourself. But modesty demands a response that recognises that your victory is another person's defeat. True modesty recognises equal worth. Demonstrating such modesty has slid into the territory of spurious self-abnegation, the surely-not-me weeping acceptance speech that is commonplace at awards ceremonies. As Andy Murray showed at Wimbledon on Sunday, there is another way of doing it. No one could mistake the emotion he felt as he dropped to his knees on Centre Court, nor that he knew he'd done something quite brilliant. And if eyebrows were raised among his more mawkish fans by the perfunctory kiss for his girlfriend – no warmer than for the rest of the team – and for nearly writing his mother out of the script altogether, it was a welcome contrast to those tearful tributes to the people who'd made it all possible.Winning through skill, hard work, courage and determination ought to make you feel pretty good about yourself. But modesty demands a response that recognises that your victory is another person's defeat. True modesty recognises equal worth. Demonstrating such modesty has slid into the territory of spurious self-abnegation, the surely-not-me weeping acceptance speech that is commonplace at awards ceremonies. As Andy Murray showed at Wimbledon on Sunday, there is another way of doing it. No one could mistake the emotion he felt as he dropped to his knees on Centre Court, nor that he knew he'd done something quite brilliant. And if eyebrows were raised among his more mawkish fans by the perfunctory kiss for his girlfriend – no warmer than for the rest of the team – and for nearly writing his mother out of the script altogether, it was a welcome contrast to those tearful tributes to the people who'd made it all possible.
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