Claire Bates (second right) gets a taste of Army lifeLast weekend, soldiers' families went on manoeuvres on Salisbury Plain to help them understand what soldiers go through. Claire Bates explains what insights she's gained into her husband's tour of duty in Iraq.
Claire Bates (second right) gets a taste of Army lifeLast weekend, soldiers' families went on manoeuvres on Salisbury Plain to help them understand what soldiers go through. Claire Bates explains what insights she's gained into her husband's tour of duty in Iraq.
It's early morning on a cold October day and Regimental Sergeant Major (RSM) Glynn Williams surveys his new recruits.
It's early morning on a cold October day and Regimental Sergeant Major (RSM) Glynn Williams surveys his new recruits.
Before him are 19 women, ranging from teenager to grandmother, professional dancer to company director, with 34 children between them.An Army wife during the drill
Before him are 19 women, ranging from teenager to grandmother, professional dancer to company director, with 34 children between them.An Army wife during the exercise
His eyes rest on a young woman trying to melt into the background. "Why are you wearing make up?" he bellows.
His eyes rest on a young woman trying to melt into the background. "Why are you wearing make up?" he bellows.
"Well... I... er... don't see the point of letting yourself go, just because you're in the field... er ...sir," she replies.
"Well... I... er... don't see the point of letting yourself go, just because you're in the field... er ...sir," she replies.
He turns on his heel, feigning disgust, and orders us to fall in.
He turns on his heel, feigning disgust, and orders us to fall in.
Just how we came to be on Wiltshire's Salisbury Plain and taking part in this special exercise is down to those in charge of the 1st Regiment Royal Horse Artillery.
Just how we came to be on Wiltshire's Salisbury Plain and taking part in this special exercise is down to those in charge of the 1st Regiment Royal Horse Artillery.
All of us have loved ones serving with the regiment, and the aim of Exercise WHAGS (Wives Husbands And Girlfriends) is to teach us a little of what service men and women go through while away. It's the first of its kind done by the regiment.
All of us have loved ones serving with the regiment, and the aim of Exercise WHAGS (Wives Husbands And Girlfriends) is to teach us a little of what service men and women go through while away. It's the first of its kind done by the regiment.
It's also meant to be fun, and a thank you for keeping the home fires burning. Those in charge recognise it's been a tough time for everyone. With almost back-to-back deployments recently, including seven months in Iraq last year and seven to come in Afghanistan next year, morale among those left at home has been low.
It's also meant to be fun, and a thank you for keeping the home fires burning. Those in charge recognise it's been a tough time for everyone. With almost back-to-back deployments recently, including seven months in Iraq last year and seven to come in Afghanistan next year, morale among those left at home has been low.
Stark lesson
Stark lesson
The women - no male partners stepped up - have begged uniforms and other kit from their other halves. The only information given is what to pack in our bergens and day sacks - or handbags as we prefer.Claire's essentials to survive
The women - no male partners stepped up - have begged uniforms and other kit from their other halves. The only information given is what to pack in our bergens and day sacks - or handbags as we prefer.Claire's essentials to survive
I also sneak in three cans of G&T (ready mixed), two packs of Supernoodles (low fat) and a hot water bottle (cashmere cover). I figure these come under the "any other equipment to make life easier for you" category, by which I think the Army blokes mean sanitary items.
I also sneak in three cans of G&T (ready mixed), two packs of Supernoodles (low fat) and a hot water bottle (cashmere cover). I figure these come under the "any other equipment to make life easier for you" category, by which I think the Army blokes mean sanitary items.
My husband Paul packs the rest. He has to, as the list is virtually incomprehensible to a non-soldier - it includes a bivie bag (plastic cover for a sleeping bag to make it waterproof), a buffalo (warm down-filled jacket), a KFS (knife, fork, spoon....stupid) and a Norwegian (a type of container).
My husband Paul packs the rest. He has to, as the list is virtually incomprehensible to a non-soldier - it includes a bivie bag (plastic cover for a sleeping bag to make it waterproof), a buffalo (warm down-filled jacket), a KFS (knife, fork, spoon....stupid) and a Norwegian (a type of container).
RSM Williams calls Sergeant Keith Heslop to take us through basic drill. The usual comedy routines ensue, but it's a surprisingly stark lesson in how disciplined and tiring drill is.
RSM Williams calls Sergeant Keith Heslop to take us through basic drill. The usual comedy routines ensue, but it's a surprisingly stark lesson in how disciplined and tiring drill is.
We then board trucks into the heart of Salisbury Plain, where we build a "poncho" - plastic camouflage sheeting strapped between two trees to form something resembling tent.
We then board trucks into the heart of Salisbury Plain, where we build a "poncho" - plastic camouflage sheeting strapped between two trees to form something resembling tent.
To be windproof, it needs to be no more than 12 inches off the ground at its highest point. But this also rends it user-proof, since you can neither sit up, turn over nor drink a G&T without spillage.
To be windproof, it needs to be no more than 12 inches off the ground at its highest point. But this also rends it user-proof, since you can neither sit up, turn over nor drink a G&T without spillage.
Share and share alike
Share and share alike
To eat we have a 24-hour ration pack, including silver pouches with labels such as "non-meat mini burger and beans" and two Yorkie bars emblazoned with "not for civvies". There is also a "brew pack" of tea, coffee and hot chocolate.Preparing food from a ration pack
To eat we have a 24-hour ration pack, including silver pouches with labels such as "non-meat mini burger and beans" and two Yorkie bars emblazoned with "not for civvies". There is also a "brew pack" of tea, coffee and hot chocolate.Preparing food from a ration pack
We quickly become obsessed with food - when you don't have a lot, it means a lot. And there is a fine line on exercise between selfish and selfless.
We quickly become obsessed with food - when you don't have a lot, it means a lot. And there is a fine line on exercise between selfish and selfless.
I spill my brew mug just after giving away my last tea bag. I lend out a spoon then can't find my spare. And I offer someone a square of Yorkie and she takes the whole bar. There is still just enough civvie in me to smile courteously.
I spill my brew mug just after giving away my last tea bag. I lend out a spoon then can't find my spare. And I offer someone a square of Yorkie and she takes the whole bar. There is still just enough civvie in me to smile courteously.
The soldiers then push us hard - known as "beasting" - through thigh-high puddles in a range of armoured vehicles, over an eight-metre climbing wall and through first aid drills.
The soldiers then push us hard - known as "beasting" - through thigh-high puddles in a range of armoured vehicles, over an eight-metre climbing wall and through first aid drills.
We also fire an SA80 - a soldier's standard issue rifle - in a simulator. Sergeant Adam Bainbridge asks if anyone has "any dramas" with shooting a "representative human" on a screen. For a split second I think I do, but weapon in hand I rattle off 112 rounds in three minutes, killing 14 enemy.
We also fire an SA80 - a soldier's standard issue rifle - in a simulator. Sergeant Adam Bainbridge asks if anyone has "any dramas" with shooting a "representative human" on a screen. For a split second I think I do, but weapon in hand I rattle off 112 rounds in three minutes, killing 14 enemy.
I also find myself quickly becoming feral, contemplating nicking ketchup from the owner of the clay pigeon shoot in order to make my silver pouch of "mushroom pasta with herbs" more palatable.
I also find myself quickly becoming feral, contemplating nicking ketchup from the owner of the clay pigeon shoot in order to make my silver pouch of "mushroom pasta with herbs" more palatable.
Under the stars
Under the stars
Despite initial dread at the thought of camping, it's done in excellent spirit. Campfire conversation ranges from the US election to whether Katie and Peter might split. At the wheel of an armoured vehicle
Despite initial dread at the thought of camping, it's done in excellent spirit. Campfire conversation ranges from the US election to whether Katie and Peter might split. At the wheel of an armoured vehicle
It's cold sleeping on the ground, and emotionally draining, but I learn the importance of "admin" as the boys call it - having the right kit, knowing where it is, and keeping it dry.
It's cold sleeping on the ground, and emotionally draining, but I learn the importance of "admin" as the boys call it - having the right kit, knowing where it is, and keeping it dry.
It's seemingly small lessons like these that help me understand much more about the harshness of what my husband deals with. It's not just the lack of sleep, or days without washing, that are hard.
It's seemingly small lessons like these that help me understand much more about the harshness of what my husband deals with. It's not just the lack of sleep, or days without washing, that are hard.
Having basics such as light and heat taken away is disabling and disorientating. I now understand there is a real difference between what I think you need to survive and what you really need to survive.
Having basics such as light and heat taken away is disabling and disorientating. I now understand there is a real difference between what I think you need to survive and what you really need to survive.
I also realise there are difficult choices to be made between sharing kit to keep my comrades onside, and having enough to keep myself fed and comfortable. Not to mention how liberating it is to be dirty.
I also realise there are difficult choices to be made between sharing kit to keep my comrades onside, and having enough to keep myself fed and comfortable. Not to mention how liberating it is to be dirty.
But this exercise also reminds me that our Army is tough, organised, disciplined and chivalrous. I suppose I always knew this, but it's only now that I really understand why it is like this.
But this exercise also reminds me that our Army is tough, organised, disciplined and chivalrous. I suppose I always knew this, but it's only now that I really understand why it is like this.
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What a great idea - sadly many armed forces relationships break up because the 'other half' doesn't really understand what military life is like. Maybe this will help - as well as help the families to bond with each other when their loved ones are away. Alex L Brown, Shrewsbury, UK
What a great idea - sadly many armed forces relationships break up because the 'other half' doesn't really understand what military life is like. Maybe this will help - as well as help the families to bond with each other when their loved ones are away. Alex L Brown, Shrewsbury, UK
This type of "exercise' is run fairly regularly by many different regiments and is usually very successful and fun. Fortunately I wasn't able to participate as I was either working, or for the last one pregnant!! I'd love to do one in the future though - watch out the next regiment we come to!Emma Fulton, Larnaca, Cyprus
This type of "exercise' is run fairly regularly by many different regiments and is usually very successful and fun. Fortunately I wasn't able to participate as I was either working, or for the last one pregnant!! I'd love to do one in the future though - watch out the next regiment we come to!Emma Fulton, Larnaca, Cyprus
This is nothing new. I've been an Army wife since 1977 and us wives have done countless of these exercises, sometimes getting to drive tanks and trucks and flying in Army aircraft. They're great fun if you get into the spirit of the day (and night), but there are always those who don't want to do it, or whine and moan when it gets cold and wet. I loved every one I did.Jayne Hughes, Shrewsbury, Shropshire
This is nothing new. I've been an Army wife since 1977 and us wives have done countless of these exercises, sometimes getting to drive tanks and trucks and flying in Army aircraft. They're great fun if you get into the spirit of the day (and night), but there are always those who don't want to do it, or whine and moan when it gets cold and wet. I loved every one I did.Jayne Hughes, Shrewsbury, Shropshire
Is this a useful way of spending the armed services budget..? It's right up there with the fire service in Scotland spending hours trying to find a hamster. I can think of better ways to spend tax payers money.Juliet, Reading, Berkshire
Is this a useful way of spending the armed services budget..? It's right up there with the fire service in Scotland spending hours trying to find a hamster. I can think of better ways to spend tax payers money.Juliet, Reading, Berkshire
So, despite the fact that the forces are always complaining about lack of funds and equipment the army can afford a jolly for soldier's partners. While I'm on the subject - " The women have begged uniforms and other kit from their other halves." This shouldn't have been too difficult, judging by eBay, which is always full of Forces personnel selling M.O.D. issued equipment for their own gain.Paul Hughes, Glasgow
So, despite the fact that the forces are always complaining about lack of funds and equipment the army can afford a jolly for soldier's partners. While I'm on the subject - " The women have begged uniforms and other kit from their other halves." This shouldn't have been too difficult, judging by eBay, which is always full of Forces personnel selling M.O.D. issued equipment for their own gain.Paul Hughes, Glasgow
I hope you all enjoyed it, as well as noting the seriousness of the exercise. I spent 14 years in the 16th/5th Lancers, so I know what its like. And you are right, our boys in Afghanistan, Iraq and other places unknown are doing a wonderful job. God bless them all.Tommy Docherty, Glasgow
I hope you all enjoyed it, as well as noting the seriousness of the exercise. I spent 14 years in the 16th/5th Lancers, so I know what its like. And you are right, our boys in Afghanistan, Iraq and other places unknown are doing a wonderful job. God bless them all.Tommy Docherty, Glasgow
This is an excellent way of showing your partners what you do. The very nature of the Armed Forces means that you cannot say too much about what you do so allowing these wives a glimpse of what their partners do is a fantastic way of keeping the peace within the family unit. I was quite often accused of leaving my partner to deal with all the stuff that any home needs, whilst I swan off and enjoy myself. When I a matter of fact 19 - 20 hour days are quite normal - with the four hours you do get off sleeping in some flee invested hole. Ron , Gosport
This is an excellent way of showing your partners what you do. The very nature of the Armed Forces means that you cannot say too much about what you do so allowing these wives a glimpse of what their partners do is a fantastic way of keeping the peace within the family unit. I was quite often accused of leaving my partner to deal with all the stuff that any home needs, whilst I swan off and enjoy myself. When I a matter of fact 19 - 20 hour days are quite normal - with the four hours you do get off sleeping in some flee invested hole. Ron , Gosport
The Royal Horse Artillery have only just hit on this, the Infantry have been doing such exercises for a good few years! Key kit: individual coffee filters and condiments, herbs & spices!Megan, Cheshire UK
The Royal Horse Artillery have only just hit on this, the Infantry have been doing such exercises for a good few years! Key kit: individual coffee filters and condiments, herbs & spices!Megan, Cheshire UK
On a similar wives exercise a few years ago we had a command task evening where we had to sneak up on the "enemy" (other soldiers) in the dead of night, on hearing a nearing patrol a fellow wife and dear friend leapt into a bramble bush and hide until they had passed, congratulating ourselves on not being caught we crept back to our base and slept badly until morning, the next day at breakfast we were briefed on how we had done and one of the enemy soldiers recalled how they had laughed at a couple of wives who thought they were hiding so well...apart from their backsides sticking out of a hedge! Hmmm wonder who that might have been! Great fun had by all and hopefully the "health and safety brigade" won't stop these useful (and extremely fun) wives exercises from happening in the future. Rachel Rogers, Germany
On a similar wives exercise a few years ago we had a command task evening where we had to sneak up on the "enemy" (other soldiers) in the dead of night, on hearing a nearing patrol a fellow wife and dear friend leapt into a bramble bush and hide until they had passed, congratulating ourselves on not being caught we crept back to our base and slept badly until morning, the next day at breakfast we were briefed on how we had done and one of the enemy soldiers recalled how they had laughed at a couple of wives who thought they were hiding so well...apart from their backsides sticking out of a hedge! Hmmm wonder who that might have been! Great fun had by all and hopefully the "health and safety brigade" won't stop these useful (and extremely fun) wives exercises from happening in the future. Rachel Rogers, Germany
