Amy Winehouse went into rehab By Denise Winterman BBC News Magazine What's it like watching your child climb the pop charts while plunging the illicit depths of stardom? When the dream starts to unravel parents of pop stars are often left watching helplessly from the sidelines.
Amy Winehouse went into rehab By Denise Winterman BBC News Magazine What's it like watching your child climb the pop charts while plunging the illicit depths of stardom? When the dream starts to unravel parents of pop stars are often left watching helplessly from the sidelines.
Bringing up children is full of ups and downs, expectations and surprises. But what's it like when your child grows up and becomes a rock star and goes from performing in the school play to selling out stadiums around the world?
Bringing up children is full of ups and downs, expectations and surprises. But what's it like when your child grows up and becomes a rock star and goes from performing in the school play to selling out stadiums around the world?
And how does it feel when the dream starts to unravel and the drama of their descent is documented daily on the front pages of the nation's newspapers?
And how does it feel when the dream starts to unravel and the drama of their descent is documented daily on the front pages of the nation's newspapers?
If one person knows it's Mitch Winehouse. The 57-year-old London cabbie has gone from watching daughter Amy's name appear in lights to seeing pictures of her apparently smoking crack splashed across the tabloids.
If one person knows it's Mitch Winehouse. The 57-year-old London cabbie has gone from watching daughter Amy's name appear in lights to seeing pictures of her apparently smoking crack splashed across the tabloids.
I just tell her we are all here to support her... that's how we are able to cope with it Mitch Winehouse Amy Winehouse's musical success is unquestionable. Last month she won five Grammys in the US. In Britain she had the top-selling album of 2007, shifting over two million copies of Back to Black.
I just tell her we are all here to support her... that's how we are able to cope with it Mitch Winehouse Amy Winehouse's musical success is unquestionable. Last month she won five Grammys in the US. In Britain she had the top-selling album of 2007, shifting over two million copies of Back to Black.
But it has come at a price. Aged just 24, her drug abuse has triggered "life-threatening seizures", according to her father, and a high-profile stint in rehab.
But it has come at a price. Aged just 24, her drug abuse has triggered "life-threatening seizures", according to her father, and a high-profile stint in rehab.
Mitch was aware from the start about the problems that came with his daughter's unconventional career choice; difficulties most parents do not have to face when their offspring take their first steps on the career ladder.
Mitch was aware from the start about the problems that came with his daughter's unconventional career choice; difficulties most parents do not have to face when their offspring take their first steps on the career ladder.
"I went to see her at her first show. There was her name up in lights, it was a wonderful feeling," he says. "But at that point I started to worry because she wasn't used to being on stage. She was nervous so she'd have a glass of wine before hand. I remember thinking to myself this could get out of hand."
"I went to see her at her first show. There was her name up in lights, it was a wonderful feeling," he says. "But at that point I started to worry because she wasn't used to being on stage. She was nervous so she'd have a glass of wine before hand. I remember thinking to myself this could get out of hand."
Surrounded by an entourage of managers, publicists, stylists and the inevitable hangers-on, parents can quickly find themselves pushed to the periphery. And they are forced to look on helplessly as their child's life - and often their own - starts to unravel.
Surrounded by an entourage of managers, publicists, stylists and the inevitable hangers-on, parents can quickly find themselves pushed to the periphery. And they are forced to look on helplessly as their child's life - and often their own - starts to unravel.
Breaking the cycle
Breaking the cycle
Pam Parkes has "been there". She'd always had high hopes for her son Ashley Walters, imagining him as an actor.
Pam Parkes has "been there". She'd always had high hopes for her son Ashley Walters, imagining him as an actor.
"It was all about breaking the cycle and him not being a statistic," she says. "To allow him to have as much opportunity as he could have and as much choice as he could have. From where I was sitting, watching him on national television, I said to myself 'you now have more choice'."
"It was all about breaking the cycle and him not being a statistic," she says. "To allow him to have as much opportunity as he could have and as much choice as he could have. From where I was sitting, watching him on national television, I said to myself 'you now have more choice'."
But Ashley's ambitions were for a different stage. Eight years ago he shot to fame under the pseudonym Asher D, as part of the rap outfit So Solid Crew.
But Ashley's ambitions were for a different stage. Eight years ago he shot to fame under the pseudonym Asher D, as part of the rap outfit So Solid Crew.
Mitch wanted Amy to have a 'normal' lifeBut with fame came notoriety. So Solid became associated with guns, gangs and violence at their gigs.
Mitch wanted Amy to have a 'normal' lifeBut with fame came notoriety. So Solid became associated with guns, gangs and violence at their gigs.
"I just worried every single day while he was doing it about whether he was safe," recalls Pam. "It was all about will he still be here, will he survive this. If you watch someone from afar and are not convinced they are in control of what's going on around them, you worry because you know you can't intervene. There's nothing you can do. That was my feeling of panic."
"I just worried every single day while he was doing it about whether he was safe," recalls Pam. "It was all about will he still be here, will he survive this. If you watch someone from afar and are not convinced they are in control of what's going on around them, you worry because you know you can't intervene. There's nothing you can do. That was my feeling of panic."
Her worst fears were realised when Ashley was sentenced to 18 months in a young offenders' institution for illegal gun possession. Pam was left questioning whether she was in some way responsible.
Her worst fears were realised when Ashley was sentenced to 18 months in a young offenders' institution for illegal gun possession. Pam was left questioning whether she was in some way responsible.
"Whilst he was in prison everyday I used to say to myself this is my fault, was I wanting too much of him, wanting him to realise his potential which then led him to do something like music."
"Whilst he was in prison everyday I used to say to myself this is my fault, was I wanting too much of him, wanting him to realise his potential which then led him to do something like music."
'Nurture and love'
'Nurture and love'
For Mitch Winehouse, seeing pictures of his daughter and her husband covered in blood and unexplained scratches left him at his lowest ebb.
For Mitch Winehouse, seeing pictures of his daughter and her husband covered in blood and unexplained scratches left him at his lowest ebb.
"Those pictures were horrifying for us as a family," he says. "I don't know what makes people want to do that to themselves. It's something that I've never known.
"Those pictures were horrifying for us as a family," he says. "I don't know what makes people want to do that to themselves. It's something that I've never known.
"As far as my family are concerned we nurture and love each other. We felt awful, we felt there was nothing we could do to stop it."
"As far as my family are concerned we nurture and love each other. We felt awful, we felt there was nothing we could do to stop it."
But when your child is a celebrity they are deemed public property by the press - and so are their problems. Parents find they are no longer able to sort things out in the privacy of their own home and their life becomes as much of a media circus as their child's.
But when your child is a celebrity they are deemed public property by the press - and so are their problems. Parents find they are no longer able to sort things out in the privacy of their own home and their life becomes as much of a media circus as their child's.
Shut out from his daughter's world, Mitch took the unusual step of using the media itself as a conduit to reach Amy. The frankness of his feelings was played out in press interviews and TV shows programmes.
Shut out from his daughter's world, Mitch took the unusual step of using the media itself as a conduit to reach Amy. The frankness of his feelings was played out in press interviews and TV shows programmes.
It was an unreal situation the family found itself in and it seemed the only way to intervene and get across their support for Amy. So how does deal with such a surreal situation?
It was an unreal situation the family found itself in and it seemed the only way to intervene and get across their support for Amy. So how does he deal with such a surreal situation?
"I just tell her we are all here to support her," he says. "Things are ready for her if she decides to stop doing what she was doing. That's how we are able to cope with it."
"I just tell her we are all here to support her," he says. "Things are ready for her if she decides to stop doing what she was doing. That's how we are able to cope with it."
He knows where things could lead if she doesn't get help.
He knows where things could lead if she doesn't get help.
"You'd lose your child and that's not going to happen, it won't happen, " he says. "That can't happen."
"You'd lose your child and that's not going to happen, it won't happen, " he says. "That can't happen."
Ashley Walters is at least out of the headlines - making his way in the acting world, with a bright career ahead of him. But his mother says it is still not worth what they went through.
Ashley Walters is at least out of the headlines - making his way in the acting world, with a bright career ahead of him. But his mother says it is still not worth what they went through.
"I'd prefer him to have nothing of that but was here and safe. I'd reverse it all now and not have him spend that time in prison."
"I'd prefer him to have nothing of that but was here and safe. I'd reverse it all now and not have him spend that time in prison."
ONE Life: Rock Star Parents is broadcast on Tuesday, 18 March at 2235 BST on BBC One.
ONE Life: Rock Star Parents is broadcast on Tuesday, 18 March at 2235 BST on BBC One.
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